Melancholia and Mourning - Freud. A healthy Interiorization of the Other. The memorialization of the loved one. In order to protect the heart from despair, the soul incorporates the loved one within and she lies within as an ever embraced foreign body --- separate and yet, internalized, still capable of transformative discourse. Mourning well is supposed to be when the loved one can be introjected. Bad mourning is when the loved one is incoporated ... a crypt within, an empty space.
He is coming. The monument that holds my loved one's empty place, refuses to fill it in, allows it to continue to sting... I have always called it a soul shard ... my heart holds monuments past, present, future. The painful presence of love --- it takes a shard of my heart each time I choose to love. It makes my heart a tender place.
Even for Derrida, anOther I never personally knew. I keep seeing his words and his life's water pours over me. A dead man's ever-living words.
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